Strong women need emotionally strong men

Strong women are beautifully strong and powerful. They are beautiful creatures that many men admire from afar, but only very few are brave enough to date them. Their kind of intensity is difficult for some men to understand. They aren’t submissive. They aren’t people pleasers. They are strong-willed and bold. Strong women don’t have an attitude. They have standards. It takes strong men to understand the emotional chaos that comes up with this type of woman. These are the women who cannot be silenced, controlled, or micromanaged. The daring, beautiful, smart, funny, interesting, successful women who bring a lot to the table themselves do not want to settle for less than their desires and preferences and settle for just any man. The horror!

Strong women have endured many battles that broke them but they learned to pick themselves up and never gave up. They have been let down, insulted or betrayed by their loved ones. Broken women blossom into warriors. Strong women have been hurt before and don’t have time for games. My past is painful, but it is a reminder I can handle anything and make it through even stronger than before. My upbringing has taught me to put myself first.

Strong women are goal-diggers. They don’t know what defeat is. If things didn’t work one way, oh well, they change the plan, but they stick to the goal. They are flexible in their methods of reaching their goals. Strong women got their strength by climbing out of dark and deep pits. They’ve swum in vicious waters without drowning. They are strong because they are survivors.

Strong women are stubbornly independent — emotionally, financially and spiritually. I will split bills on dinner dates. I will put a cap on how much boyfriends are allowed to spend on me during anniversaries and holidays (to make sure we are spending around the same amount) I will never put myself in a position where a man can hold money over my head. I will never let someone buy my affection. I will never let someone buy my respect. I want to be able to look around and say, “I did this all on my own.” I don’t want to feel like I owe anyone else. I don’t want to be guilt tripped into keeping someone toxic around because they helped me with a few payments. I work hard. I pay my bills. I work smarter to get the perfect balance between my job and my hobbies. I sweat it out, I meditate, I tumble. I work on my product ideas, I mentor teams on agile, I pitch my business ideas. Be it beating my record of holding handstands for minutes, my deadlifts, my stage performances or my team meetings, I prepare myself and give my best shot. I maintain myself. When you see me, that’s all me. I’m not funded. I do the funding.

Strong girls are easy to fall for and hard to get over. They are the best any man, could ever have. Other people can disappoint me. They can leave me. They can screw me over. The only person who is guaranteed to remain around is myself. That is why I have to reach a place of self-acceptance. One needs to learn to love myself so getting hurt by someone else does not unravel my whole sense of self. I have to learn to be happy on my own because other people will come and go. Nothing is forever.

All strong women suffer from being overly ambitious, addicted to success and allergic to average. These might be the qualities to admire someone. But I have been rejected by men who told me that I am too ambitious and goal-oriented. Should I feel bad for it now? I want a relationship like Eleanor and Chidi. They bring out the best in each other. They are the best versions of themselves when they are around each other. They like who they are when they are around each other. Every breakup brings you one step closer to the right relationship. Your elevation requires your isolation. Get a man that stays obsessed with you, not just in the beginning. You’ll be amazed at what you attract after you start believing in what you deserve.

God made Eve for Adam, not Adam for Eve so when girls realize men need them more than you need them, you are gonna rule the world. Chase connections and clarity with people who put in the same effort you do. Don’t chase someone who doesn’t give a damn about you. Don’t! You can’t help who you attract. But, you are responsible for who you entertain.

Forget her looks. How about her insane work ethic, her unstoppable ambition, and her ridiculous dope soul? Make your own money so a man has nothing but loyalty to offer you. Strong women aren’t high maintenance, you’re just low effort. She’s beautiful in a way the world doesn’t understand, for the world only understands what the eyes can see, but the beauty she has is the rarest of all, for it's the type you feel with every part of your soul.

Strong women need strong men that will be able to take their opinion and not feel threatened or insulted. Men that will listen to them and will be eager to engage in constructive conversations. Men that are straightforward and sincere. Strong women like to have things cut and dry because they do not like things to be vague or ambiguous.

Strong women deserve men that will respect their independence. They don’t want to be glued to a man because they have a life of their own. They deserve men that will understand that they will not always be available because they are always working on their careers and goals. Strong women deserve men that will support them and won’t hold them back.

Strong women deserve men that are confident. Strong women do not have the time or energy to emotionally groom a man’s self-esteem. She doesn’t need to babysit a man. That should have been his mother’s duty. They deserve men that are secure within their abilities and are comfortable in their own skin.

Strong women deserve men that love hard. Strong women are very passionate and they love everything they’ve got. They don’t do half-ass love. They don’t want mediocre love, they are searching for a strong connection. They aren’t just looking for someone to love; they’re looking for a soulmate. They want someone that will add value to their life. They want a deep connection and it takes strong men to go that deep. Strong women don’t deserve someone who comes back, you deserve someone who never leaves!

Strong women deserve men that are emotionally strong. Not just physical strength but the strength that comes from the inside. Men that have the strength to stand tall with them in the face of adversity. They deserve men that can face any challenges head-on and won’t leave when life when rough. They deserve men that can navigate with them through oceans of uncertainty and madness. Strong women are not looking for a saviour, they are looking for another warrior that is strong enough to fight the toughest battles alongside them and not for them.

Strong women deserve emotionally strong men to be there for them when they are tired. Strong women get tired of always having to be the strong ones- it’s plain exhausting. They deserve men that can provide comfort, whenever it’s needed. They deserve strong arms to hold them tightly when they are breaking apart. They want a set of lips that speak kind words that lift them when they are falling. They deserve men that understand that even the strongest women have weak moments. Strong women deserve men that are a bit stronger to pull them out of the dark and bring out to the light when they can’t find their way out.

Strong women deserve men that will grow with them as they continue exploring the world. Strong women deserve men that recognize and acknowledge their strengths and respect them for all that they are. Strong women deserve men that will celebrate all their wins and will support them through their losses. Strong women deserve emotionally strong men that can handle the intensity, fierceness, and independence that their strength portrays. It takes emotionally strong men to handle the intelligence, honesty, love, and madness a strong woman brings. Find someone who wants to invest in you, learn from you, see you win, support your vision & fall in love with you daily.

Relationships only succeed if the couple works as a team with mutual goals and continuously enables one another to be the best of who they are without strain. Anything other than that and you’re at risk of sacrificing everything you’ve achieved.

Don’t let your efforts go to waste on a dingbat. You’ve worked too hard for that. Embrace the freedom, live for the now and when the time is right, everything else will fall into place. Don’t prove your haters wrong, prove your lovers right.

We need to start choosing the partners who support us, not the ones who need us.

Always choose people that are better than you.

Always choose people that challenge you and are smarter than you.

Always, be the student. Don’t ever depend on a guy for anything.

You are enough. With the right one, you upgrade.

Be so damn independent and you will attract the right kind of guy :)

P.S. Make sure you have your own life before becoming someone’s wife!